Swiping Right: The Energetics of Online Dating
Online dating is a world where swiping right feels like buying a lottery ticket, and swiping left is like saying, “No thanks, universe.” It’s not just an app on your phone; it’s an energetic playground buzzing with intentions, desires, and let’s be honest, a fair amount of “What am I even doing here?” vibes.
The first thing to remember is this: everything is energy. Think of online dating as a big bowl of trail mix. Sure, there are plenty of raisins and peanuts in there (and maybe a few random pretzels), but what you’re after are those sweet little chocolate chunks. That’s what you’re looking for—the pieces that truly resonate with you.
We’re talking digital energy here vast but with a certain logic. Yes, it’s possible to find what you’re looking for, but it takes some effort. You’ll have to sift through the mix—profiles, messages, and the occasional “Hey beautiful” crumb—to align with the right energetic match.
And here’s the thing: what you’re looking for is what you’ll get back. Your energy is your ad in this digital bazaar. If you’re clear and intentional, you’ll attract people who reflect that energy. But if your vibe is a little murky, that’s what you’ll pull in, confusion begets confusion. Be specific, we want chocolate.
Let’s take a closer look and figure out what’s brewing in the digital love cauldron.
The Energy Exchange in Digital Love
Every profile, swipe, and message carries energy. Think of online dating as a bustling marketplace where everyone’s shouting, “Here’s what I’ve got!” in the form of photos, bios, and quirky one-liners. The trick is to tune into the signals that align with you and steer clear of the ones that don’t. Here’s what you might encounter:
1. The Frequency of Intention
Some people radiate clarity— “I want a relationship” or “I’m here for fun.” Others? They’re broadcasting, “I have no idea why I’m here, but let’s see what happens.” The clearer your intention, the more likely you’ll attract someone on your wavelength. PS. Never go on a dating app, if you are in a low vibration.
2. The Vibe of Unresolved Energies
Ever swiped on someone and felt an inexplicable heaviness? That’s the energy of unresolved emotions—heartbreak, insecurity, or even fear. If you’re sensitive to energy, you might pick up on this quickly, even before the first date.
3. The Field of Possibilities
At its best, online dating hums with the energy of possibility. This is where curiosity, openness, and a dash of optimism help you align with potential matches.
4. The Echoes of Collective Energy
With millions of people swiping at the same time, online dating creates a collective energetic field. This can amplify excitement and hope, but it can also stir up frustration and judgment. Staying grounded in your own energy is essential for navigating this space.
What Kind of Energy Are You Carrying?
Let’s get real: the energy you bring to online dating is your calling card. It sets the tone for what you’ll attract. Whether you realize it or not, your mindset, emotions, and intentions ripple out and shape your experience. Here are some common energy patterns—and what they might be bringing back to you:
1. “This Isn’t Going to Work, but I’ll Try It Anyway”
Skepticism is like showing up to a party with your arms crossed. If you’re carrying this energy, your interactions might feel flat or forced, even with great matches. Try shifting your mindset to, “I wonder what’s possible,” and see how the energy changes.
2. “I’m Lonely, and Anything Is Better Than Being Alone”
Loneliness can be powerful, but if it dominates your energy, you might attract people who feel just as incomplete. Instead, focus on self-love and treating online dating as an adventure rather than a solution.
3. “I’m Going to Meet My Prince/Princess on Here”
While optimism is great, attaching to a fairytale ideal can create pressure and disappointment. Try holding space for meaningful connections, no matter what form they take.
4. “I’m Too Cool for All of This”
Detachment and superiority create walls, not bridges. If you’re carrying this energy, you’re likely to attract people who also stay distant or noncommittal. Drop the cool act and show up as your real self.
5. “I’m Better Than All of These People”
Judgment blocks connection. When you carry the energy of “no one is good enough,” the universe mirrors it right back at you. Humility and curiosity open the door to deeper, more fulfilling exchanges.
The Energetic Boomerang: What You Put Out, You Get Back
Whatever energy you put out into the online dating world; you’ll get back in return. People naturally match each other’s vibrations, so if you’re projecting doubt, judgment, or desperation, you’ll attract connections that mirror those feelings. For example:
If “no one is good enough,” then no one will be good enough. This energy creates a lens of criticism, making it impossible to recognize or appreciate compatible matches.
If you expect disappointment, you’ll find it. This energy magnetizes less-than-ideal experiences.
If you treat people like items on a clearance rack, don’t be surprised when you’re the ‘buy one, get one free’ deal.
If you embody confidence and openness, you’ll attract others who resonate with that energy.
The key is to carry the energy of what you wish to attract. If you want kindness, bring kindness into your interactions. If you seek authenticity, show up as your most authentic self. Online dating isn’t just about finding a match—it’s about aligning your energy with the kind of connection you want to create.
What Does It Mean to Be Authentic?
Let’s talk about authenticity—because honestly, it’s your secret sauce in the world of online dating. Being authentic doesn’t mean baring your soul or listing your quirks like it’s a resume for love. It’s about showing up as the real you, without trying to mold yourself into what you think someone else wants.
Authenticity means being clear about who you are and what you’re looking for, even if it feels vulnerable. It’s about honoring your unique energy and trusting that the right person will connect with it—not the polished, filtered, “I’m perfect!” version you think they want.
Here’s what authenticity looks like:
Say What You Mean: If you’re looking for a relationship, say so. If you’re just here for fun, own it. Clarity invites the right people in.
Share Your True Interests: Are you really into hiking, or was that one accidental picture misleading? Own your quirks!
Drop the Filters: A candid laugh beats a perfect pose any day.
Be Honest About Your Energy: If you’re feeling hopeful, say it. Vulnerability is part of authenticity—it’s what makes you human and relatable.
How to Navigate the Energetics of Online Dating
Set Your Energetic Boundaries
Before swiping, take a moment to ground yourself and set an intention. Visualize a protective bubble around you, ensuring that only high-vibrational energies can enter your space.Curate Your Energy Signal
Your profile is your energetic signature in the online dating world. Choose photos and words that reflect your authentic self, not just your best angle or a clever one-liner. Authenticity creates resonance and attracts people who vibe with your true essence.Listen to Your Intuition
Pay attention to how you feel when you encounter someone’s profile or message. If their energy feels heavy, confusing, or "off," trust that instinct. Conversely, if you feel light, excited, or intrigued, that’s worth exploring.Watch for Energy Drains
Endless swiping, ghosting, and shallow interactions can be energetically exhausting. Take breaks when you feel drained, and don’t let the process overshadow your self-worth.Stay Aligned with Your Frequency
It’s easy to be influenced by the collective energy of online dating but staying aligned with your frequency keeps you in a place of empowerment. Meditate, journal, or use energy tools (like a pendulum!) to check in with yourself regularly.
Online dating is like an energetic tango with the vast digital field of love seekers. By tuning yourself to only find the energy you want, by setting clear intentions, and by staying true to your vibration, you can waltz through this modern matchmaking arena with confidence and clarity.
Feeling overwhelmed? Take a breather, ground yourself, and trust that the right connection will come at just the right time. After all, in the world of energy, alignment is the ultimate dance partner.
Curious About Your Energetic Signal?
Now, I know some of you are shouting at your screen right now: “Mary! I’m sending out a clear message! I’m doing everything you’re telling me to do!” And while I believe you, I’m here to lovingly tell you that somewhere in your energy, there’s probably some baggage waving a big ol’ flag that says, “Hi, I’m still here!” That baggage is calling forth the very people you’re trying to avoid, like a magnet for unresolved energies. Why? Because they’re mirroring something in your energy field.
If you’ve ever wondered what kind of energy you’re putting out and why certain connections keep showing up, I’d love to help. Sometimes, we all need a little clarity to see how our inner energy shapes what we attract.
In a session with me, we can explore the unique energetic beacon you’re sending out. Together, we’ll look at any patterns or blocks that might be influencing your experiences and gently realign your energy to better match your intentions. It’s not about fixing anything—it’s about uncovering and fine-tuning the authentic, vibrant energy that’s already within you.
If this resonates with you, feel free to reach out. It would be my honor to walk alongside you as you navigate the beautiful and sometimes messy world of connection. You’re not alone in this journey, and I’m here to support you.
